“Belonging is being somewhere you want to be, and they want you. Fitting in is being somewhere you want to be, but they don’t care one way or the other.” -Brené Brown, quotes middle school student
Welcome to the Book Club dear reader! Thank you and I am so happy that you are here. This is going to be fun! I have recently become a huge lover of books, reading and self development. Being a fairly new mom with a baby at home, I find myself hunkered down at the house more… and while baby naps looking for something a little bit more life-giving than doing the dishes. There is no greater joy than sharing what you have learned with someone else and discussing a book you’ve read together. I also believe that when you are able to reflect on, share and discuss “take aways” from books with others it sinks in and you are able to really apply it to your life.
Without further adieu, I give you our very first Book Club read… ‘Braving the Wilderness’ by Brené Brown. For the month of April we will be reading ‘Braving the Wilderness’ and will have a book discussion in a blog post comment section at the end of the month. Please subscribe to our newsletter to see when that post is live so you can join in the conversation. While you read the first part of the book here are some reflection questions to consider. Please feel free as you read and make it to about half way to respond to these reflection questions in the comments.
My intention on this Book Club is to create a community in this space that goes beyond “social media” to real social engagement and connection. Please use this Book Club as an open space to discuss the book with respect for others opinions. I want to also remind you that this Book Club should never feel like a chore. This is created to be a life-giving activity and you should look forward to doing it and being a part of our discussion. If you need to read at a slower pace or participate by listening to the audio book – please do that!
“You are only free when you realize you belong no place—you belong every place—no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.” – Maya Angelou
Book Teaser Podcast – Strong Back, Soft Front, Wild Heart with Brené Brown and Krista Tippet
Reflection Questions for Part I – (Share your thoughts in the comment section!)
1. How would you describe the difference between belonging and fitting in? Have you given this much thought before reading this book? …That fitting in and belonging might be different?
2. “There is nothing worse than not belonging at home.” How can you connect this to parenting and raising children? Or, How can you relate this to your childhood?
3. Brené Brown uses BRAVING as an outline for what it takes in order to trust others and in self trust. B – Boundaries, R – Reliability, A – Accountability, V – Vault (keeping confidences and not speaking out of turn), I – Integrity, N – Non-judgement (ask for what you need and accept what others need without judging them), G – Generosity (not jumping to negative assumptions about the intention of others) Which of these characteristics do you feel like comes naturally to you, and what do you struggle with?
4. “Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning and purpose to our lives.” What do you currently do in your life that is a spiritual practice that connects you to all things?
5. She talks about the paradox of belonging, vulnerability and connection in the book. How it is important to be brave and stand alone when you are called to do so and by doing that, you are able to feel true belonging. That our opinions, thoughts and reality can be YES and YES, rather than YES or… How do you stand up for what you believe to be true with civility?
“Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don’t belong. You will always find it because you’ve made that your mission. Stop scouring people’s faces for evidence that you’re not enough. You will always find it because you’ve made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don’t negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts. Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you.” -Brené Brown, Braving the Wilderness
Buy the Book! Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown